Stand for something much much bigger than yourself: then you'll see how insignificant you are and how big a difference you can make. Like an ant that tirelessly contributes to the construction of an anthill, something million-billion times bigger than itself!
In Nepal's brand of groupism, the most important and valuable functional unit is the extended family. That and following the dictates of the caste system means that we live and move within small social bubbles. Who one forms alliances with -- such as marries, works, socializes with etc. -- depends a lot on ones ethnicity and caste. It's as if like we are still tribes living in the hunter-gatherer phase of human evolution!